Perry Noble: Why Christian singles can't get a date or get married

Pastor Perry Noble spills the beans on why he thinks single Christians find it a challenge to snag a date or get hitched.

For the senior pastor of NewSpring Church, the difficulties single Christians face in getting into a relationship can be drilled down to eight simple reasons.

"God said there is a certain order in the processes," said the pastor in his podcast titled "8 Reasons Why You Can't Get a Date or Get Married" released June 26.

These processes, he believes, involve waiting for the right time and getting oneself ready for a relationship. For the men, he especially emphasized that it's important to be debt-free or financially stable before going on a hunt for a wife.

He also preached about the common mistakes a single Christian makes while searching for someone to be with. One top mistake is when a Christian falls in love more with the idea of getting married than the idea of actually loving Jesus. This, Noble said, is already a form of idolatry.

He also cautioned about bringing in emotional baggage of bitterness into a relationship or issues of impurity like porn addiction. The pastor reminded single Christians not to "try too hard" nor compromise oneself during the romantic pursuit. He also shared his own past experience when being in a relationship validated his worth.

"We've got to make sure our life is in order," advised the pastor, who also said that getting married may be important but what's more important is to "run hard after Jesus."

However, although most Christians place a high priority on being in a relationship, many more are starting to harbor a "toxic mindset" about marriage.

"It's individual consumerism applied to sexuality — what I want, when I want it, and only for as long as I want it," Mary Hasson, director of the Catholic Women's Forum at the Ethics & Public Policy Center, told The Christian Post.

Hasson further explained, "It's meaningful only from a 'what's in it for me' perspective. Relationships often take on the same quality — they are vehicles for personal fulfillment (however defined) and, like an old car, they can be traded or dumped when the repair costs get too high or a new model appears on the scene."